Relationship Timeline
Holidays Past: Making His Plate
Since the holidays are approaching I wanted to give an insight into our favorite holiday memories. However, I also wanted to raise a question to my female readers. Do you fix your boyfriend’s plate, if so when did you start? If you haven’t done so or wont explain your reasoning.
My boyfriend and I have spent a total of three holiday seasons with each other but it wasn’t until our second holiday season that I started to fix his plates. Our first holiday season in our relationship was still new and we were still learning about each other but realistically I wasn’t willing to do so for him. However, as our relationship has developed I am more willing to do so and now I do think he aspects it; to an extent.
But why is this something that I thought about?
Well the women in my family have always made the plates of the males in my family without every questioning the action. With that being said I decided to ask my mother why she made my father’s plate. Her response was simple “Your father would starve with me, lol.” But then she went on to explain that she made my father’s plate as way to show him she appreciated him. “Yes your father is more than capable of getting up and making his own plate but I do so as way to lessen his burden.” I am choosing to take my mother’s 
explanation and understand her actions for making his plates not as a way of setting women back 50 years but as a way to show the male counterpart that women are complex individuals who can operate both board rooms and the kitchen while never lessen the value of a man as long as he is aware of her worth.
Java Chillers and French Toast Sticks
We met in 2010 at Sonic. He was a carhop and I worked drive thru. In an attempt to get my attention he would always ask me to make his Java chillers, claiming that I was the only one who could make them “Right”. From there came the flirting and after months of waiting, he finally asked me out.
As our relationship began to blossom it was important for us to create memories. Since we went to different schools it was up to us to make time for each other outside of school and work. Holidays were my favorite memories we created. Personally I enjoy being surrounded by love ones and great food. For him his favorite memories were the countless anniversary trips we took. Malik being very adventurous enjoyed doing outdoor activities like biking, rock climbing and swimming.
However upon entering college I tend to reminisce on our High School days especially prom and homecoming. He is very supportive in understanding my dreams as I am with his. However HS was really the place where I believe our relationship was able to thrive to show its possible growth. However as we are currently in our college experience we appreciate our winter breaks, spring breaks, and summer breaks the most. We also enjoy the occasional surprise visit to keep the relationship alive. But ultimately the emphasis is on creating memories, which has not faded…..(I will continue to update this timeline as we progress).
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