Keeping it Cute Through Postage: 10 Gift Ideas & Themes to send Bae

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Besides the phrases “its free” and “class canceled”, the quickest way to put a smile on a college students’ face is with a care package. So, why not send Bae one as well. Care packages are a great way to show endearment and affection towards love ones. Being in a long distance relationship we tend to miss out on the little sweet nothings of affections that our bf/gf show us when we are together. Sending a care package fills that void. Care packages not only show just how much you care and miss them but, they also keep the relationship fresh. When the distance starts to take a toll on us the care packages give us something to look forward too!

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My boyfriend and I typically send care packages once or twice a semester to each other (depending on our funds). We thought it would be a cute a way to show each other just how much we had been paying attention to the things we discussed over the phone. Not to mention it gives me an excuse to ask for food J. However coming up with ideas and themes for each package can be difficult but I have map out some ideas to help with the frustration:

1. Walk Down Memory Lane Box: print or glue pictures that depict past memories in the relationship. You can send Bae anything that you all share as being special in your relationship.
2. Foodie Box: include all of Bae’s favorite snacks and treats in this box.
3. The Birthday Box: decorate this box with balloon cut outs and streamers. You can also look on line to Google how to make a cake in a mason jar to help Bae celebrate their birthday.
4. Readers Digest Box: send Bae their favorite books or magazines to help them get through those boring lectures.
5. Chicken Noodle Soup Box: When Bae gets sick send them halls, tissues, a get-well card, and can of Campbell’s chicken noodle soup.
6. 10 things I miss about You Box: decorate this box with 10 small envelopes and in each name the things you miss about Bae while you are a part. This is the perfect opportunity to express just how much Bae means to you!
7. Be Mine (Valentine Day) Box: using paper cut out hearts list the things that Bae does that makes you reminisce on why you fell in love with them. Send Bae their favorite chocolate treats or send them a gift card to cold stone or Baskin Robbins to have a sweet treat.
8. Movie Night Box: send Bae popcorn and gummy bears and with a note that plans a video chat movie night were you two can watch your favorite movie together.
9. Away From Home Survival Kit: In this box send Bae all the things that remind you too of your city. Since I am from Baltimore my boyfriend will send me Crab chips since he knows how much I love a Maryland Blue Crab. Send each other your favorite hair care or hygiene products.
10. Anniversary Box: In this box send Bae any and everything that you put a smile on their face. For this box decorate with Bae’s favorite colors and cute notes and pictures of you all. Also plan out your next visit for when you two see each other.

Being Too Friendly

How comfortable are you with your bf/gf having friends of the opposite sex?

Personally I don’t have a problem with my boyfriend having friends of the opposite sex as long as they are made aware who I am and the extent of our relationship. I am also well aware that he is in college and that a major part of being in college is being involved and getting to know people to build connections. But I am also aware of the effects of being too Mixy. When it comes either person having friends of the opposite sex it is the responsibility of you the boyfriend or you the girlfriend to make sure that the friend is aware of your better half.

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However I also think it is important to not jump to conclusions and assume that every friend of the opposite sex is out to become more than just friends with your bf/gf.

However the most important aspect when discussing this issue is make sure that there is a mutual understanding of trust and respect within the relationship. You all have to have enough respect for each other not to cross boundaries when it comes to having friends of the opposite sex, i.e., no flirting, frequent texting, touching, long drawn out hugs, and especially no confiding. With being in a LDR there is a sense of loneliness that can sometimes be overwhelming and these friendship can sometimes fill that void. This is not the best way to address that feeling of loneliness each person in the LDR should try to avoid creating an emotional connection with any other person other than there better half to avoid any trust issues. Trust is very important when the lines of daily communication are altered when involved in a LDR.

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Moreover, I honestly think it is best to just talk out your loneliness with your gf/bf wen these emotions arise. Send them text messages with the heart eye emoji and sad face, snap chat them about how your day is going, send them a funny riddle to get you all laughing, reminisce about the start of your relationship; just don’t break the line of communication when you are missing your better half.

The Myth of the High school Sweetheart:My introduction into Long Distance Relationships

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I honestly never saw myself in a LDR, however I never thought that I would find love so early in my life. Out of a 6 year friendship my boyfriend and I developed a romantic relationship, that’s been going strong for 3 years now. With that being said From our Junior year of high school up to graduation we had been joined at the hip, but things would soon change as college approached. Our first year apart we both had readjust to the differences and priorities in our lives that were now going to consume our lives as we prepared to make stainable career paths for ourselves. Since our majors are the complete opposite from each other our class schedules and work schedules were too. 

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For example he would begin classes at 12 and be done by 7pm, where I would begin at 8am and be done by 2pm. Then there was homework (assignments), he would be working pass midnight and I would be done by 11:30pm. Although this made it harder for us to communicate we didn’t let it hinder the relationship instead we planned out talk times, skype times, and facetime times. However in deciding to begin the LDR we had to make sure that we both were on the same page as where we intend for our relationship to lead. We also needed to make sure that we were not just pressuring each other into a commitment because we didn’t want to break ties with each.

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Especially with the pressure of being the nontraditional High School Sweethearts. Although we meet at the age of 14 we didn’t began our relationship until our Sophomore year of high school. However we didn’t attend the same school, hence the nontraditional aspect. There are the myths to finding love at an early age but I say that if you can remain focus in your passions while supporting your bf/gf go for it. Love doesn’t have a set time it comes when it wants to and its up to you to decide when you are ready to part take in the roller coaster of highs and lows.